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How Do You Know When ‘The Party Is Over’?

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Is the fat lady singing? Did the curtain close? Did you hear the final bell? Has Elvis left the building? Are the lights are out? Truth is, in our hearts, we know when the party is over, but sometimes we just don’t want to leave!

There are beginnings and there are endings. We like both to be ‘happy’, don’t we? Well, sometimes they are and sometimes, not so much. The journey of a thousand miles starts with the first step… and ends with the last. It’s easy to identify the first step, right? But after that any one of ‘em could be last. How the heck do we know when to quit? (If you’re thinking that maybe you should have determined that BEFORE you took step one, BAM!!! You got it. Hang with me, though, we’ll get to that.)

Whether we’re talking about a relationship, a job, a work of art, a business or a project – whether it was fun or not – whether you reached your goals, or not… stuff ends. When it ends and how it ends – that’s what matters. That’s what determines how you feel about it as it ends and when you look back on it.

It’s like cooking fish… You should probably stop cooking the fish when it is just shy of done or it will overcook – and it’s probably time to call it quits just shy of having to call it quits (aka when it’s no longer a choice; not your decision).

And, my friends, herein lays the brilliance of having a plan and goals. Backed with a commitment to succeed, your plan and goals are your roadmap and the destination for the journey. You know where you are going and you have a plan to get there. I mean, seriously, how will you know when you get there if you don’t know where you’re going? And how will you know if you’re lost?

When Motivate and Activate was launched in November of 2015, I made a one-year commitment to writing a new blog and leading a one-hour, group coaching and conversation call every week. I wanted to “reach the masses”, and I wanted to eliminate everything that might block people’s participation. So, I made it inexpensive ($50/month). I scheduled the calls midweek and after dinner so that they wouldn’t interfere with anyone’s work, date night or family dining time. ‘Sharing’ was optional. All of the calls were recorded so, if missed, they could be listened to at one’s leisure. See, I had a plan.

And, along with my trusty Wing Woman Extraordinaire, Tracy, we set goals. We would consider the program to be a work in progress until we had at least 50 members. It was fully expected that 100 people would be enrolled by the January of 2016… and that we’d have to split into segments and add more weekly calls so people would have a chance to get some one-on-one with me. I had visions of special interest groups, live workshops and gift cd sets.

Short version… that didn’t happen. The ‘fish fried’ for six months without the anticipated numbers, but my commitment was for a full year – and I couldn’t/wouldn’t abandon those who had enrolled. I had followed my plan and, although I LOVED the journey, I never reached the destination. Elvis had left the building. My heart told me the fish was fully fried.

Was the program a failure? NO WAY! It was awesome and I’d be thrilled to do it again. (In fact, I will, when I can figure out how to monetize it.) Did I quit? NO, I took it to completion. Did the party end? Silly question, all parties end. But, to answer the question: SURE, the party ended… but that didn’t make it any less of a great party!


Ride The Horse In The Direction It’s Going

RIDE THE HORSE IN THE DIRECTION IT’S GOING

By Sandye Linnetz

In life, we have ‘beliefs’…  lots of beliefs. It’s all that stuff we absolutely ‘know’ is true – about life, love, business, spirituality, exercise, learning and even oatmeal!

“Making money is good” “the toilet paper should come OVER the roll” “nice guys finish last” “money doesn’t grow on trees” “Hard work pays off” “It’s better to be busy than bored”  “the road to success is filled with potholes” “OATMEAL MUST BE HOT” “If it feels like work you’re in the wrong business” “I am boring” “Those people are boring” “WORK ISN’T FUN”  “THIS IS GOING TO TAKE A LONG TIME” “there aren’t enough hours in the day” “some things just can’t be done” “I’m not smart enough” “Money is the Possibility of Freedom” “Time is the most valuable commodity I have” “I’ll never be able to do that” “I can do anything I put my mind to” (You have millions of your own, don’t you?)

What do you BELIEVE about life – and yours in particular?  Pretend that you have to give a speech to 12th graders about what it’s like to be in you. What would you tell them? This is a great way to get clear about where you are and what you believe about what you do. How do your “beliefs” match your current reality?

Think about this: The way it is now is the lowest common denominator between what you want and what you are willing to accept.  Okay, reread that line until you really ‘get’ it. (And ask yourself, “What am I ‘putting up with’ that isn’t really what I want?”)

Perhaps it’s time for you to raise the bar. When I do this little personal inventory I start by taking a look at the way it IS; no judgments, no interpretations – just an honest look at my life. How often am I joyful? Stressed? Anxious? Fearful? Calm? Frenetic?  Do I have enough money to feel comfortable? To share? What people are around me? Are they raising me up? Bringing me down? How much sleep am I getting? Are my teeth white? How’s my weight? Is my office clean and organized? I resist nothing, I just notice.

Now, I get to design a new outcome. What do I actually want my reality to look like? What’s the dream; the perfect world scenario? When I’m not really sure, I make it up… Time for me to make a new plan to step into that future. This is when I take a good look at what it would take for me to do that. I go to bed an hour earlier. I enroll one more client. I call that friend I haven’t seen in a while – the one who makes me laugh. What I do is TAKE ACTION. I MAKE IT HAPPEN.

Are you ready for YOUR new reality? What would you have to do and who would you have to be in order for that reality to be yours? Step into it… take the steps (baby steps at first, maybe) to have it… and own it.

What will it take to get to the next step toward your measure of success?  Be creative in your thinking.  Brainstorm with people who are already there – or have been there. Drop the “what ifs” and step up to the ‘HOW’ plate. Take a swing at “how to get to where you want to be”.  (According to the California Lottery, “You can’t win if you don’t play”!)

The truth (or, ‘a’ truth): What you resist will persist. When you allow things to ‘be’ just the way they are, you can create miracles for yourself.  Ride the horse in the direction it’s going and you’ll end up in the control of the reins. (And enjoy the ride)!


RIDE THE HORSE IN THE DIRECTION IT’S GOING

 By Sandye Linnetz

In life, we have ‘beliefs’…  lots of beliefs. It’s all that stuff we absolutely ‘know’ is true – about life, love, business, spirituality, exercise, learning and even oatmeal!

“Making money is good” “the toilet paper should come OVER the roll” “nice guys finish last” “money doesn’t grow on trees” “Hard work pays off” “It’s better to be busy than bored”  “the road to success is filled with potholes”  “If it feels like work you’re in the wrong business” “I am boring” “Those people are boring” “WORK ISN’T FUN”  “THIS IS GOING TO TAKE A LONG TIME” “there aren’t enough hours in the day” “some things just can’t be done” “I’m not smart enough” “Money is the Possibility of Freedom” “Time is the most valuable commodity I have” “I’ll never be able to do that” “I can do anything I put my mind to” (You have millions of your own, don’t you?)

What do you BELIEVE about life – and yours in particular?  Pretend that you have to give a speech to 12th graders about what it’s like to be in you. What would you tell them? This is a great way to get clear about where you are and what you believe about what you do. How do your “beliefs” match your current reality?

Think about this: The way it is now is the lowest common denominator between what you want and what you are willing to accept.  Okay, reread that line until you really ‘get’ it.

Perhaps it’s time for you to raise the bar. First, see your reality as it is – no judgments, no interpretations – just let it be; accept your reality as it is. Don’t resist it, that doesn’t work. Notice it. Notice everything about it!

Now, design a new outcome. What do you want your reality to look like? What’s the dream; the perfect world scenario? Not really sure? Make it up. Your call…

Are you ready for that new reality? What would you have to do and who would you have to be in order for that reality to be yours? Step into it… take the steps (baby steps at first, maybe) to have it… and own it.

What will it take to get to the next step toward your measure of success?  Be creative in your thinking.  Brainstorm with people who are already there – or have been there. Drop the “what ifs” and step up to the ‘HOW’ plate. Take a swing at “how to get to where you want to be”.  (According to the California Lottery, “You can’t win if you don’t play”!)

The truth (or, ‘a’ truth): What you resist will persist.  When you allow things to ‘be’ just the way they are, you can create miracles for yourself.  Ride the horse in the direction it’s going and you’ll end up in the control of the reins. (And enjoy the ride)!