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Come for a Sip and Smile – Morning Coffee with Sandye…                    and stay for the inspiration, motivation and FUN!


Why Are We Here?

At What Do I Say? What Do I Do? we intend to break the cycle of “I don’t know what to say or do so I’ll say nothing, do nothing and just disappear”. By empowering people to use straight talk and generous listening, empathy and compassion, gratitude and simple kindness, relationships will flourish, people will feel safer and supported and hey, the world will be a better place.

Sandye Linnetz is committed to doing all that – and she’s been doing it, in person, in print, on the net, on the phone and through her art for well over a dozen years. Okay, well over 3 or 4 dozen years! Read on to find out how you can get involved…


Join our What Do I Say? What Do I Do? facebook group:

This group is the place to be for an uplifting jolt, a smack of motivation, a boost of inspiration, a smile and an ah ha! We’re here to get you through the day with a smile and a positive “I’ve Got This Attitude”; to remind you that miracles happen and that the world is filled with good people (they hang out here) and good stuff (we help each other recognize it)! If you’re not a member, JOIN NOW! And,PLEASE SHARE!!

Join us for Morning Coffee with Sandye:   YouTube 

Every morning at 6am Pacific Time… or watch a replay. Start your day with A Sip and A Smile! Join Sandye as she inspires, motivates and entertains you with her engaging story telling, usually on key singing and contagious happiness.  And watch for Sandye on FaceBook Live!      WARNING: She may be too happy and energetic for some of you.

check out: https://www.youtube.com/morningcoffeewithsandye

Read the blogs, watch the videos and share your awesomeness!





It’s not ‘vintage’ 2021 but the message is good.



When WDISWDID founder, Sandye Linnetz, was divorced after a 20-year marriage, she noticed that some of her friends and family were great, some ‘tried’ to be helpful and others simply disappeared. It didn’t take long to realize that few of the people in her life had even a clue about how to deal with someone experiencing abandonment, anger, hurt or misery. When her father died a year later, the discomfort of those around her was obvious. People did and said some wonderful things… others brought only more pain and stress in the name of ‘sympathy’.

We learned , and arithmetic, but didn’t teach us compassion or empathy or even how to communicate honestly and generously. That makes it very difficult – if not impossible – for some of us to be truly supportive in really tough situations.

I can recall countless incidents when someone I cared for needed me and I simply didn’t know what was appropriate. Sometimes I got lucky and said exactly what they needed to hear. Sometimes I said or did the wrong thing and sometimes I just stayed away.

~ Excerpt from
WHAT DO I SAY? WHAT DO I DO? When someone I care about is going through DIVORCE.

And, so, my friends, What Do I Say? What Do I Do? was established… first as a conversation, then as a facebook group – which has grown and expanded into a dynamic throng of positive energy. Sandye writes and shares numerous blog posts, thoughts and detailed plans (here and on the What Do I Say? What Do I Do? facebook group page)… to support all of us in being HAPPY and functioning and prevailing in difficult or uncomfortable situations.

Motivate and Activate was a year-long group program of weekly conversations on topics that touch our hearts… or a nerve. Perhaps it will available again in the future…