games

I HAVE SO MUCH TO DO THAT I’LL PLAY CANDY CRUSH…

By:  Sandye Linnetz

Candy Crush

You know the feeling. I had it just an hour ago. It’s that fuzzy headed, stomach tightening, anxiety ridden sense that you’re doomed. You can’t possible get it ALL done, so what’s the use? Why tackle it? I mean, really, where do you even start? Everything is important. Most of it’s kinda urgent. You promised to finish all of it by bedtime tonight…

So you sit down to attempt it (okay, I sat down to attempt it) and found myself first staring blindly at the computer screen and then beginning to ‘surf’. Even though I know better… even though I tell my clients to eliminate distractions, turn off attention grabbing dings, buzzes and rings and tackle the tough stuff first – today I simply vegged! Unfocused and unsure of what to do first, I started out on what I randomly chose to be task #1 – not because it was the most important – just because. Okay, truth? Because it was mindless. Then, almost immediately, I decided to take a smoke break… Went downstairs and remembered that I don’t smoke anymore. Walked back upstairs to my office and checked my email, facebook and my nails. I moved papers around on my desk. I went to the bathroom. I DID EVERYTHING BUT GET TO WORK!

See, this morning I had this whole list in my head (danger! The list was WHERE???) from business stuff to personal calls and from household chores to weights to lift, but I just couldn’t seem to get started on anything! I promised myself that I’d write three blog posts, work out with my weights for 20 minutes and take a quick shower within the next two hours. I PROMISED! Then I had the brilliant thought that perhaps a quick game of Candy Crush would relax me and get me into work mode. Fifteen guilt-ridden minutes and two levels later…

STOP!

That’s the way it was for me (though perhaps I was a bit more frenetic than the picture I just painted). For a full 37 minutes I did nothing of ‘value’. I was in the process of berating myself and feeling crappy, when I literally shouted: “STOP!” Clearly it was time for me to follow my very wise coaching advice … and a re-frame.

First I congratulated myself on taking the 37minute break that I so obviously needed. I reminded myself that taking care of my needs allows me to be a far better producer! Then, sitting at my desk, I took a few deep breaths, drank some water and began to make a task list. When the list felt complete and the absolutely must dos had been circled, I turned off the ringer on my phone and the sound on my computer and dived into the list – starting with the stuff that HAD to be done.  The new clarity was joy producing!

So here I am, blogging away… checking stuff off my list… feeling pleased with myself and the world. I’ll play a quick game of candy crush later!

YOU CAN’T WIN IF YOU DON’T PLAY!

Participation

YOU CAN’T WIN IF YOU DON’T PLAY!

By Sandye Linnetz

Participation is what gets you outta bed, into the shower and ready to face the day with enthusiasm. If life is a game, it’s a team sport and you, my friend, can participate as a player or a spectator – you choose!

Spectators can enjoy a good game. They can cheer and jeer, eat popcorn and drink a cold one. Some spectators are devoted fans that dress like their favorite players. Some even paint their faces in team colors. Fans have really cool tailgate parties and hats and posters and other valuable stuff. They joyfully bark their great advice to the players and hurl insults at the coaches. Spectators can even show up late and leave early. It’s cool to be a spectator, huh?

Players, on the other hand, get paid to do what they love, while fans just get to watch and pay them more.  Life is happening out on the field. Only players have power in the game. Why be in the stands watching to see how the game unfolds instead of being out on the field with the team planning and playing?

You can pat the winners on their backs or have your back patted… Face your fears and go for the glory or play it safe on the bleachers. There’s no right and no wrong here. What do you want? To imitate or be imitated? Safety or the opportunity to test your mettle? To play or to watch? To go for the gold or go for the hot dogs?

When it comes to on-line groups – like “What Do I Say? What Do I Do? – your participation truly matters – when you jump in and share your thoughts, opinions and questions or simply ‘like’ what someone else says or does, you’re on the team and the game keeps evolving. If you like the ‘game’, say so… that’s participation and it creates a domino effect that keeps the action going. If there are no players, there is no game.

You have a thought. You have an opinion. Miracles occur when you share them. You never know whom you will touch or the difference you can make in someone else’s life. And, in that same game, if they don’t let you know they ‘heard you’ – if they aren’t playing – you won’t ever know! How sad is that? No, no one wins if no one plays.

And now I shall quote the great poet, Eminem (Who’s close friends just call him ‘m’):

If you know the rules to play the game, play
Cause when we die we know we all goin’ the same way
Cause it’s cool to be player, but it sucks to be the fan

 Even I don’t have anything to say after THAT!